Why We Should Stop Judging People on their Clothing Choices Why We Should Stop Judging People on their Clothing Choices – RESHA

Why We Should Stop Judging People on their Clothing Choices

Author - Divyashree Thacker

Almost everyone has an opinion on a everyone’s appearance. Some people just have the decency to keep it to themselves.

From the length of a woman’s skirt, the tightness of her jeans to the depth of her cleavage, from the height of her heels to the colour of her lipstick, and this applies for men too! We are all guilty of this sometime or the other in life!

People like to think that they can tell a person ́s life story by analysing someone’s appearance - the shallowest of all analysis.

The problem is that there isn’t an outfit that anyone can wear without being judged.

We are trying to find meaning behind everything, even if there is nothing to find.

I find this most prevalent in Indian households, where back is despised and if you step out of your room wearing black, this is what you are greeted with - “Why are you wearing black today? Did someone die?”

Or if you’re out somewhere fancy - “Look at that girl wearing the short red dress. What an attention seeker!”

“Oh look, that guy is wearing pink! Why would he choose to wear pink, it’s so feminine!”

I think women are the more guilty party in this issue. Not only do most of us spend an absurd amount of time worrying about what we look like, but we are also the ones making snarky comments to our friends about innocent passers-by, be it men or women.

There isn’t an all-encompassing solution, but until people stop believing that looks are all that matter and begin to concentrate on what’s inside their heads, things won’t change.

The older I get, the more I realise that society is very judgmental.

I’m not saying that everyone is judgmental, but a handful of people are. That’s the harsh truth. Often times, it comes down to the way one looks or dresses.

It’s going to be a lot harder, if not impossible, to change opinions on people’s perception. I would consider myself quite feminine when it comes to my clothing choices but as of last year, I found myself wearing less skirts and dresses and have almost given up on wearing tops with any kind of cleavage.

Even I was taken in by the illusion that if I wore a short skirt (the definition of short is open to interpretation), then I somehow “deserved” the stares and whistles that came my way. It is hard to keep your head straight if that’s the environment you grew up in.

Women especially are at fault and victims at the same time.

They are always being pitted against each other wherever we look. The media doesn't help much, in fact they often build walls instead of bridges. Instead, we feel like there is an unannounced competition and somehow every woman is trying to take our place as a wife, boss or friend. If women bonded together like men do, we really could make a difference.

Being in college, I've noticed that people are often criticised on what they wear to class. "Why are they so dressed up for class? It's only class." Or it could be the opposite, "Why are they not dressed up?" If you're dressed nice, people will judge; if you're not dressed nice, people will judge. You can never win. But it shouldn't have to be that way.

To start off, just because somebody dresses a certain way does not mean that’s how they are. For example, if someone is wearing designer clothing head to toe, that doesn't necessarily mean they have money, or came from a rich background.

If a person is wearing old and worn out clothing, that does not make them poor. They could totally have money, they just don't spend it on clothes. You simply don't know.

Stereotyping is not good fashion, don't wear it.

Secondly, people have different styles and tastes. Everyone has the right to express themselves and some people do so by dressing up. Some do not. Sure, somebody may have a style completely different from yours, but that doesn’t make them any less of a person than you are.

People like to dress up for themselves, not for everyone else. Next time you see a person wearing something you're not a fan of, just look away. You may not like it, but they probably do.

Lastly, we tend to pick people apart. Rather than focusing on what others are wearing, we need to focus on their great qualities. There is so much more to a person than what they wear. You may not like the way a person dresses but could love their personality. As a society in general, we need to look more for the good in people, not the bad. Easier said than done, totally. But it doesn't hurt to try!

People are being constantly judged by their appearance and the clothes they wear. First impressions are really important, but they don’t define our personality.

People should get to know each other in order to discover who they really are.

To begin with, the way we dress deeply reflects our lifestyle, our mentality and our social status. It is an important role in our social relations but putting much attention on the physical appearance can steal the focus from what is really essential in life.

Everyone has their own tastes, styles and opinions. Some people choose to wear clothing that is in style, while others prefer dressing in order to

be comfortable in what they wear. Even though people differ from each other, that does not mean they should be judged just for their clothes decisions, you never know what is inside their minds or their hearts. Some people dress so nicely they look wonderful on the outside, but appearances can be deceiving.